My Adult Daughter’s Gender Transition

Recently, my co-host D. M. Maynard and I had the profound privilege of interviewing Nina, a brave and inspiring mother of a transgender daughter, on our YouTube conversation series. In this reflective conversation, Nina opened up about her family’s journey through gender affirmation, the hurdles they overcame, and the importance of unconditional support and understanding.

A Coming Out Story

Nina’s daughter first revealed her identity as gay during her high school years. A few years later in college, she came out as transgender. This revelation threw the family into crisis, with Nina’s daughter struggling to come to terms with her gender identity. Through patience, love, and open communication, the family slowly began to navigate their new reality.

One vital message that came out of our conversation was the irreplaceable role of family support during a child’s transition. Parents, friends, and family members need to educate themselves, attentively listen to their child, and progressively understand and discuss transgender issues. We also touched on the importance of therapy for parents and the role of self-care activities in managing emotional stress during such times.

Nina’s daughter underwent a series of facial feminization surgeries, including a hair transplant, rhinoplasty, and shaving of the brow bone and jaw. The family’s journey to find the best surgeons led them to Facialteam. Our team not only provided their medical expertise but also offered emotional support throughout the process.

Facing the Challenges

Families of transgender children often face a multitude of challenges, such as adjusting to pronoun changes, handling judgment or stares from others, and navigating the legal and financial implications of updating documents. We discussed the importance of seeking support from online resources and communities during these testing times.

Transgender individuals can face unique difficulties while traveling, such as different treatment or objectification. Families need to devise strategies to manage these situations, with an emphasis on communication and support.

One of the key takeaways from our conversation with Nina was the need for education and empathy to better understand and respect the transgender journey. Documentaries like National Geographic’s Gender Revolution and empathetic exercises can aid parents, family members, and friends in supporting their transgender loved ones more effectively.

Our conversation series on YouTube aims to amplify the voices of those closely involved in the trans community – companions, parents, partners, family members, educators, and advocates. By fostering understanding, respect, and support, we hope to contribute to building a more inclusive and empathetic society for transgender individuals and their families.

Patient Relations Manager Lilia Koss, presentator of Lilia's Livestreams
About the author

Hello world! I’m Lilia Koss and I use she, her, and they pronouns. What are yours? With a background in humanities and diverse professional experiences, I have been working with the Facialteam founders and directors since 2008. Involved from the ground up, so I’ve had hands in many pots: patient coordination, orientation events on 3 continents, social media, written and audiovisual content about our gender-affirming healthcare...but now life is more defined. Lately, I focus my energies on Public Relations, community management and live streaming to help raise the visibility of trans health. Life is pretty complete.