How to Know if I Am Trans: Am I Ready to Transition?

Wondering if it’s possible to transition into the opposite gender? Maybe you feel like neither male nor female resonates with you. That’s a big and important question and I’m really glad you found this article. Figuring out your gender identity can be a complicated journey, but don’t worry—I’m here to help. Let’s go through this together.

What does Gender Identity mean? Is it Different from My Sexual Preferences?

Understanding the differences between Gender Identity, Gender Expression, Biological Sex, and Sexual Orientation is key to understanding your feelings. Each aspect defines a different facet of who we are, and appreciating these differences helps us support and affirm each other’s unique experiences.

Gender Identity is a deeply personal and essential aspect of one’s self-identity. You may find yourself male, female, a combination of both, or neither… while having another gender assigned at birth. This is not always visible to others but is an essential part of an individual’s being. For many, discovering and embracing their true Gender Identity is a profound journey of self-acceptance and authenticity.

Apart from your Identity, you can present yourself in any other way that doesn’t follow society’s norms. Gender Expression is the external reflection of a person’s gender identity. It’s how individuals present themselves to the world through choices in clothing, hairstyle, behavior, voice… Gender expression can be masculine, feminine, androgynous, or a unique blend of these and can change over time. It’s a way for people to communicate their identity to the world.
Apart from your Identity and your unique Gender Expression, your Sexual orientation describes who you are attracted to emotionally, romantically, and/or sexually. It’s about the people we love and are drawn to, encompassing identities such as heterosexual, gay, lesbian, bisexual, and more. You can feel attracted sexually and/or romantically to any gender, indistinguishably from your Gender Identity, Gender Expression, or Sex Assigned at Birth.

How many Genders do exist?

We have talked about Sex Assigned as Birth being male, female, or intersex, but Gender exists on a spectrum rather than being a binary concept. People might identify as a combination of genders, as no gender at all, or their gender identity might change over time, reflecting gender fluidity.

Beyond just male and female, there are many other gender identities that don’t fit neatly into these categories. For example, some people feel agender, meaning they don’t feel like any gender at all or feel neutral about gender. Others might feel like they are both male and female, or they might feel like their gender changes over time. Some people are non-binary, which means they don’t fit into the typical ideas of being just a man or a woman.

In different cultures, there have always been different ways of understanding gender. For instance, some Native American cultures have Two-Spirit people, who embody both masculine and feminine qualities and have important roles in their communities.

The way we talk about gender is always changing as we learn to listen to more people and begin recognizing that there are many different ways to be a person in the world, including different gender identities. This growing understanding helps create a world where everyone can feel respected and accepted for who they are.

What Does It Mean to Be Trans?

Being Trans means that your Gender Identity doesn’t match the sex you were assigned at birth. For some, this is crystal clear from a young age, but for others, it takes a bit longer to figure out. And that’s totally okay!

How do I know if I’m Trans?

Have you ever looked in the mirror and felt like the person staring back isn’t really you? Maybe certain parts of your body just don’t feel right. This feeling is often called Gender Dysphoria. Imagine feeling a persistent discomfort or sadness because the way others see you or expect you to be doesn’t reflect who you truly are inside.

As you got older, did these feelings get stronger? Puberty can be a tough time if you’re trans because your body starts to change in ways that might not feel right to you. You might feel really uncomfortable with these changes.

Maybe you don’t feel strictly male or female. That’s completely valid! You might feel like you’re somewhere in between, or that your gender changes over time. This is what we call being non-binary or gender-fluid.

• Are there specific parts of your body that make you uncomfortable or upset? 
• Do you imagine what it might be like to have different physical traits? 
• Do you feel out of place with the roles and behaviors society expects from your assigned gender? 
• Do you feel more at home when you think about the roles of a different gender? 
• How do you feel when others see you as your assigned gender? 
• Does it feel right, or does it cause you distress? 
• Conversely, how do you feel when someone mistakes you for another gender?

Your self-discovery journey is completely unique and requires spending time getting to know you, your emotions, your experiences… It can be tough sometimes, especially for older generations who already have their life together, but the joy that seeing your true self in the mirror will bring you it’s invaluable.

I think I’m Trans, What Should I Do?

Knowledge is a powerful tool on your journey towards self-discovery. Delve into books, find videos with other people’s experiences online, explore articles written by Trans people… Each story and perspective can inspire different paths and maybe they can resonate with your own feelings and identity.

Sometimes navigating gender identity can be complex, but you don’t have to do it all by yourself. Consider reaching out to a professional who specializes in Gender Identity. Their expertise can provide invaluable guidance and a safe space to explore your thoughts and emotions. Additionally, joining support groups, whether online or in person, offers a sense of community and solidarity. Remember, there are others who share similar experiences and are eager to offer support.

Take your time to experiment in environments where you feel secure and supported. This could involve trying new hairstyles, experimenting with makeup, or exploring different names. Allow yourself the freedom to discover what feels authentic and comfortable for you.

When you feel ready and safe, consider sharing your feelings with trusted friends or family members. Their understanding and acceptance can provide a profound sense of comfort and validation during this important time in your life.

Connecting with supportive communities through organizations or local LGBTQ+ centers will surely offer a welcoming environment to share experiences, find solidarity, and build meaningful connections with others who understand your journey.

Remember, each step you take is a brave stride towards understanding and embracing your true self. You deserve compassion, support, and respect throughout your journey of self-discovery and affirmation.

I’m Pretty Sure I’m Trans, Now What?

It all begins with being kind to yourself and acknowledging the courage it takes to explore your gender identity. Start by listening to your feelings and thoughts about your gender. You might want to journal or simply reflect on what feels true to you. This self-awareness is the first step toward understanding and affirming your identity.

Surround yourself with friends, family members, or online communities who accept and understand you. These connections can provide emotional support and guidance as you navigate your journey.

Deciding when and how to share your identity with others is a personal choice. Take your time and choose trusted individuals who you believe will support you. Remember, you deserve to be surrounded by people who respect and celebrate your authentic self.

You might consider medical steps like Hormone Replacement Therapy, finding a healthcare provider who is knowledgeable and respectful of transgender health issues is essential. They can help you explore your options and make informed decisions about your care.

Navigating legal aspects such as changing your name or gender marker on official documents may feel daunting but know that there are resources and organizations that can assist you through these processes.

Another aspect that some Trans people usually take into consideration is Gender Affirming Surgeries. I wrote another article gathering all the possibilities there are available for Trans Women.

Above all, remember that your identity as a Trans person is valid and worthy of respect. Each step you take toward embracing your true self is a milestone to be celebrated. You are part of a community that embraces diversity and supports each individual’s journey toward authenticity and happiness.

Will I Regret Transitioning?

Discovering your true gender identity is a personal journey, not a race. It’s completely okay to take all the time you need and explore your feelings at your own pace. There’s no right or wrong way to be yourself, and your emotions are completely valid. You’ve got this, and there’s a whole supportive community out here ready to stand by you.

Embrace yourself, enjoy the journey, and celebrate life.

Lots of Love, Vicky xx